For the meat, if you live in one of the larger cities you should be able to easily get round steak from a butcher shop. If you cannot find round steak, go with a large piece of beef and cut a few steaks off from that, across the grain. You will have to tenderize yourself with either the hammer or needle type or use the back of a cleaver.

Cut the tenderized beef into small pieces to make it easier to work with. Place the beef in a deep dish, and place 3 more deep dishes on the counter, you are going to make an assembly line.

In the dish to the right of the meat, mix the egg and milk, next dish to the right, mix the flour, salt as desired, 1 1/2 teaspoons black pepper, paprika, and cayenne pepper, and the final dish is clean and empty.

While the pan is heating, take one piece of meat, sprinkle both sides with salt and pepper to your liking then dip the meat into flour mixture, and turn to coat, then dip into the egg and milk mixture and turn to coat, then place the meat back into the flour mixture. Place the breaded meat on the clean plate. Repeat for the rest of the meat.

Heat the oil in a large skillet, a cast iron pan would be perfect for this. and add the butter as well. When hot, not smoking but hot when tested with a a sprinkle of flour into the oil, then it is ready.

Cook the meat, about 3 pieces at a time until the edges start to turn golden brown, about 2-3 minutes each side. Once golden brown on both sides and cooked through, remove to a plate lined with paper towels and cover with foil to keep warm, repeat until all the meat is cooked.

Once all the meat is cooked, pour off the oil to a heatproof bowl and return the pan to the stove over medium low heat. Add 1/4 cup of the reserved oil back to the pan and let that heat up.

When the oil is hot, gently whisk the oil and sprinkle in the flour and whisk until you have a golden brown paste. Then slowly pour in 3 cups of milk, whisking constantly, then add salt and pepper to your liking. Keep whisking until the gravy is smooth and thick, about 5 to 10 minutes, add more milk if the gravy becomes too thick. Taste and add salt and pepper as needed.

Serve as dinner with mashed potatoes and pour gravy over both or serve as breakfast with eggs, biscuits, and fried potatoes. Enjoy.